If you’ve found yourself standing in the middle of the living room at 2 a.m. with a baby who won’t stop crying and zero clue what’s wrong—you’re not alone. Every new mom has been there. Crying is how your baby talks to you, and while it can feel overwhelming at times, it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.
In this guide, we’ll break down why babies cry, how much crying is actually normal, and what you can do in the moment.
Understanding Normal Baby Crying Patterns
Here’s something they don’t always tell you at the hospital: babies cry. A lot. And it’s usually completely normal.
Most newborns cry about 1 to 3 hours a day in their first few weeks. That number can go up around week 6, which is often the peak crying age. Some babies may cry up to 2 or even 3 hours a day—and yes, it feels like forever when you’re in it.
A big study that looked at data from 17 countries found that crying typically increases during the first 6 to 8 weeks of life, then slowly starts to taper off. So if your baby is in that age range and crying often, it’s probably part of their normal development.
In the early days, it can be hard to figure out what your baby is trying to tell you. Are they hungry, tired, cold, bored, or looking for a cuddle? Their cries may all sound the same at first, but soon enough, you’ll begin to recognize patterns. As you get to know your baby better, you’ll be able to guess what they need more quickly—and trust that instinct.
Common Reasons for Crying in Babies
Babies cry to communicate. That’s it. They’re not trying to give you a hard time—they’re having a hard time. Here are the most common things they’re trying to tell you:
Physical Needs
- I’m hungry. Look for hunger cues like rooting, sucking on hands, or lip-smacking.
- I’m tired. Overtired babies struggle to settle. Try a quiet space, warm bath, or massage.
- I need a diaper change. Some babies don’t mind a wet diaper—others demand a fresh one.
- I’m uncomfortable. They might be too hot, too cold, or have clothes that are too tight.
Digestive Discomfort
- I have gas. Burping during and after feeds can help. Some babies need extra help getting the air out.
- I have a rash. Nappy rash can cause real discomfort. Use a gentle cream and keep the area clean and dry.
- I might be reacting to something in formula or breastmilk. Signs can include gas, hard tummy, or drawing knees up to chest.
- I might be colicky. If your baby won’t stop crying and cries more than 3 hours a day, 3 days a week, for over 3 weeks, talk to your doctor. Try extra burping, gentle rocking, or changing your feeding routine.
Emotional and Environmental Factors
- I’m teething. Swollen gums, drooling, and biting are signs. Some moms swear by teething toys or cold washcloths.
- I’m overstimulated. Too much noise or activity? Try a dim, calm room.
- I need closeness. Babies often just want to be held. Skin-to-skin contact can work wonders.
- I’m bored or lonely. Babies need stimulation too—play, talk, or sing to them.
- I’m feeling your stress. Your baby picks up on your emotions. Take care of yourself too.
- I might have an earache. Constant ear pulling or crying when lying down could be a clue.
- Nothing specific is wrong. Sometimes, babies just cry. It’s a developmental phase.
- Something’s bothering my skin. Check for zippers, tight straps, or itchy tags.
- I’m going through a growth spurt. These periods can cause more fussiness.
- I’m adjusting to a new reflex. Fast or slow milk flow can frustrate your baby during feeds.
What You Can Do in the Moment
You’re not supposed to have all the answers. But you do have tools. Try these when your baby is crying and nothing seems to work:
- Feed your baby if it’s been a while
- Check their diaper and clothing
- Hold them skin-to-skin or in a baby carrier
- Rock, bounce, or walk around gently
- Try white noise, shushing, or soft music
- Comfort feeding is a mom’s superpower
- Give a warm bath or gentle massage
- Switch to a quiet, dark room to calm stimulation
- Take a break—put baby down safely and step away to breathe
When To Worry About Baby Crying
Sometimes, when a baby won’t stop crying, it’s a signal that something more serious is going on. Call your doctor if:
- Your baby has a fever, rash, or trouble breathing
- The crying is nonstop and sounds painful
- They’re not eating, peeing, or pooping normally
- They’re losing weight or seem weak
- You just feel like something’s not right
You’re not overreacting. Trust that feeling. You know your baby better than anyone.
A Quick Note About Temperament
Some babies are just more intense. They cry more, need more help settling, and startle easily. It’s not your fault. If your baby won’t stop crying no matter what you try, it may be part of their natural temperament. In fact, recent studies show that genetics can explain up to 70% of how much a baby cries. So if your baby is more sensitive than your friend’s baby—that’s okay. You’re not doing anything wrong.
You’ve Got This
Crying is hard. It pushes every button and drains your energy. But it’s also a phase. And like all phases, it will pass.
In the meantime, keep listening, keep showing up, and know that you’re doing an incredible job—even on the days it doesn’t feel like it.
Resources
- Find a breastfeeding support group near you.
- Milkology Breastfeeding Class – Affordable, video-based online course to help you master breastfeeding at your own pace.
References
- Crying in the First 12 Months of Life: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis — Child Development (2022)
- Parenting the Crying Infant — National Library of Medicine (2017)
- Why Do Babies Cry? — UNICEF Parenting
- Clinical Practice Guidelines: Unsettled or Crying Babies — Royal Children’s Hospital, Melbourne
