The Baby Massage Guide - Special Techniques Explained

Baby Massage Feb 2, 2021

Baby massage has been practiced throughout the ages and in many countries, especially in Asia and Africa. Only in recent years, has the western world taken notice and started implementing this.

There are many different techniques in massage therapy, and the same goes for baby massage.

The basic idea though, is that you gently knead, stroke or rub the muscles and soft tissue on each part of a baby's body. By doing this, you help your baby relax, heal and bond with you.

While massaging your baby, keep eye contact and gently talk or sing to your baby; this should be an enjoyable time for the both of you! When you feel calm and relaxed, your baby will relax too. If your baby gets irritated or restless, you can stop and try some other time again.

Baby massage should be kept as a pleasant experience, do not allow it to become just another chore in your baby care routine.

Also learn more about the benefits of skin to skin contact and kangaroo mother care.

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The Benefits of Infant Massage

  • Constipation relief by regulating the digestive system.
  • Helps relieve asthma symptoms.
  • Improves blood and lymph circulation.
  • Improves sensory awareness. It improves motor skills & overall body awareness.
  • Reduces symptoms of conditions like eczema.
  • Enhances the growth of muscles and improves muscle tone.
  • It will boost your baby’s immune system.
  • It promotes relaxation. Because massage increases oxytocin and prolactin levels, stress levels decrease.
  • Increases neurological development. It also stimulates the brain and nervous system with new experiences, which helps the baby to understand movement and social behavior.
  • Touch benefits like bonding and attachment between parents and child.
  • Enhances a baby's sense of love and trust.
  • Improves self-esteem, body image, and social functioning.
  • Helps your baby sleep more soundly and for more extended periods of time.
  • It's a way of communicating.
  • It aids in healing.
  • It improves suppleness.
  • Provides the all-important skin stimulation. Why is touch important?
  • It relieves the discomfort of things like gas, colic, teething, congestion (stuffy chest and nose), etc.
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Benefits for Parents/Caregivers

  • It improves communication, by helping you to understand and respond to baby's non-verbal cues.
  • Because it is so relaxing, it reduces your blood pressure and heart rate as well.
  • It would ease your stress if you were separated from your baby during the day.
  • Gives you a feeling of competence and confidence in caring for your baby.
  • It increases prolactin and oxytocin, which is very important for a breastfeeding mother; this can increase the flow and volume of your breast milk.
  • Increases your ability to help your child relax in times of stress, not only now, but in the future as well.
  • It increases your overall sense of health and well-being.
  • It can also help decrease Postpartum Depression symptoms in mothers who suffer from it.
  • Teenage mothers bond and interact better with their babies when they give regular massages.

As you can see, massaging your baby is not only good for the baby but good for you too!

What You Need for Baby Massage

  • Make sure that the room is comfortably warm and not too brightly lit. Create a relaxing atmosphere for you and your baby. You can put on some soft music.
  • Place your baby on a flat surface, such as the changing table or sit on the floor or bed. Both of you should be comfortable and safe. Ensure that your baby won't fall off of the changing table or bed if they make any sudden movements.
  • Cover the surface with a towel or cloth in case your baby decides to make a wee or poo so that you can quickly clean up the mess. You can also keep your baby's nappy on if you prefer.
  • Personally, I used baby lotion to massage my children. The main idea is to reduce friction between your hands and your baby's skin, helping you to glide over your baby with ease and in a continuous motion.
  • Test the oil on a small patch of skin first, to ensure that your baby is not allergic.
  • Some people like to add essential oils to these carrier oils; others prefer not to. Although it might add a lovely scent and provide other benefits, it does take away from the bonding experience. When the oil's scent is neutral (such as vegetable and plant oils), the baby gets to know your scent better. It adds to the bonding process; this is a personal choice.
  • Ideally, you should get proper training from an infant massage instructor, who will teach you the correct techniques of baby massage.

When to Massage Your Baby

  • If your baby is sick, has a fever, diarrhea or a skin rash, it is better to skip the massage. Unless, of course, your doctor recommends otherwise.
  • To avoid your baby from bringing up their milk, do not massage your baby directly after a feed.
  • Also, ensure that your baby is in a good mood and ready to be massaged. If your baby is calm, content and has a steady gaze and relaxed limbs (or reaches out to you after telling your baby, it's time for a massage), you know they are ready.
  • If your baby turns away, becomes stiff and fussy or is crying, it is better to wait until they calm down before trying again.
  • The time of day that you massage your baby is entirely up to you. Some prefer mornings; others make it part of the bath time routine or part of the bedtime routine, this might change with time, as your baby grows up. If your baby becomes too excited during a massage, move the massage sessions to daytime.
  • Do not overtire your baby. Short sessions of massage go a long way.

Your massage routine will be as unique as you, and your baby are!

When Using Essential Oils

With baby oil massage, it’s best to use oil that is natural and non-scented for the first couple of weeks. Experts recommend you use oil that is edible and odorless.

Remember that your baby will put his/her hands in their mouth, therefore, use natural carrier oils, such as olive oil, baby oil, pure sweet almond oil or sesame seed oil.

Baby massage oils that are mineral based may be suitable for waterproofing but may clog the pores.

After a few months, you can introduce different scented oils that are stimulating to your baby's olfactory system.

The following essential oils could be added to your carrier oils mentioned above. Only a few drops of the following are added to the carrier oils:

  • Mandarin essential oil, which is a baby calming massage oil. It can help with baby’s moods and helps your infant sleep peacefully.
  • Chamomile essential oil calms skin rashes and any skin irritation. This oil also creates a sense of tranquility.
  • Neroli oil increases circulation throughout the body and reduces fear and worry.

Massage Techniques

Baby massage is pretty much like learning to play the piano (or any other instrument for that matter).

You can read up all you want about the instrument and get all the theoretical music knowledge in the world. If you don't physically practice playing the instrument though, preferably every single day, that head knowledge alone won't be of much use to you. Knowing and doing are two different things.

The same is true for massaging your baby and learning all sorts of baby massage techniques. So with that in mind, I decided to place some videos here for you to give you an idea of what baby massage looks like.


I strongly recommend that you find an infant massage instructor who can teach you the correct techniques in person and help you "practice" them. It's one of the best investments (referring both to time and money) that you'll make.

Milking or Effleurage Movements

Effleurage massage entails long-stroke movements, which you usually do with a flat hand or fingers.

The "milking" technique is done while holding the baby's leg (as shown in the video below) and then you move your hands together in opposite directions, squeezing lightly.

Infant Massage Basics

Baby Massage Tips & Getting Started

Massaging Baby's Legs

Massaging Baby's Tummy

Massaging Baby's Arms

Massaging Baby's Back

Massage Strokes

The following is especially helpful for babies with colic symptoms:

  • Rub in a circular clockwise direction. Babies with colic usually benefit from having their legs and tummies rubbed.
  • Wringing motions are extra stimulating, and they bring blood to the surface of the skin.
  • Milking or effleurage movements have a calming, relaxing effect.
  • Try different pressures, speed and number of strokes.

Important Note: You do not want to use light touch, as this will feel more like tickling, and will have the opposite effect than what you want to accomplish. Gentle, but deep pressure stimulates both tactile and pressure receptors.


Tracy Behr

A homeschooling mother of two, breastfeeding helper, and lover of all things natural! Currently studying plant-based nutrition.

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