Is your baby refusing to breastfeed no matter how often you try? It can feel heartbreaking when every feeding turns into a struggle. You offer your breast, but your baby arches away, cries, or even screams. Don’t worry—you’re not alone. Breast refusal is more common than many parents realize, and there are ways to work through it. Let’s go over some gentle tips that might help.
What is Breast Refusal?
Breast refusal is when a baby suddenly won’t breastfeed from one or both breasts.
If your baby has struggled with breastfeeding since birth, this might be more about latch issues or early feeding challenges—not true breast refusal. Those are usually related to things like a shallow latch, birth trauma, or even tongue-tie.
You might wonder if your baby is starting to wean, but weaning doesn’t usually happen overnight. It’s a gradual process. When a baby suddenly pushes the breast away, there’s usually something bothering them. Common reasons include ear infections, a blocked nose, or discomfort while feeding.
Babies sometimes refuse the breast after being separated from their mothers for more than a day. It’s their way of showing distress or confusion. The good news? This kind of breast refusal is usually short-lived. A little extra skin-to-skin contact and quiet bonding time can help get things back on track.
Many people quickly assume that breast refusal means the mother isn’t making enough milk. But that’s not always true. Try not to feel pressured to offer formula right away. It’s important to understand what’s really causing the refusal before deciding on supplements.
If Baby Only Refuses One Breast, It Could Indicate the Following…
Breast preference could indicate a few things:
- An ear infection might make it painful for your baby to lie on one side.
- A stuffy nose can also make it harder to breathe while nursing, especially in certain positions.
- Sometimes, a birth injury like a sore neck or shoulder can cause discomfort when turning the head one way.
- Physical differences matter too. A flat or inverted nipple on one side might make latching harder.
- Also, if you usually feed more from one breast, it can lead to uneven milk supply. Over time, your baby may prefer the side that gives milk more easily.
- Very rarely, breast refusal on one side has been linked to undiagnosed breast cancer. If you notice a lump, pain, or other changes in one breast, talk to your doctor. Safe options like an ultrasound or mammogram can be done while you continue breastfeeding.
Tips for One-sided Breast Refusal
If your baby is refusing one breast, there are a few simple tricks that can help.
- Start by trying different breastfeeding positions. For example, if your baby won’t feed from the left side, try the football hold on that side. You can also hold your baby more upright to see if that helps them feel more comfortable.
- If the breast feels too full or firm, pump a little before feeding to soften it. That can make latching easier.
- During the feed, try gentle breast compressions to keep the milk flowing and encourage your baby to stay at the breast.
And if nothing works? It’s okay. You can continue feeding from just one breast if needed. Many mothers do this successfully. Your body will adjust and keep producing enough milk for your baby.
What Causes a Nursing Strike?
If your baby suddenly refuses both breasts after feeding well before, it could be a nursing strike. This can feel frustrating, but it’s usually temporary. Most nursing strikes last about 2 to 4 days, though some may stretch a bit longer.
So, what causes these sudden stops?
- A common reason is illness—like a sore throat, ear infection, or stuffy nose.
- Teething pain can also make nursing uncomfortable.
- Babies are sensitive to changes around them. If you’re under a lot of stress, your baby might pick up on it. Some babies refuse to nurse after being startled—like if they get bitten and you react loudly.
- Returning to work can also be tough on your baby. The separation can lead to stress and temporary refusal.
- Sometimes, the taste of your milk changes. This can happen due to mastitis, your menstrual cycle, a new pregnancy, or changes in your diet. Medications or even a new perfume can also affect how your milk smells or tastes, which might bother your baby.
Tips for When Baby Refuses Both Breasts
When your baby refuses both breasts, it can feel overwhelming—but there are gentle ways to work through it.
- Start with skin-to-skin contact. Cuddle your baby close and keep the environment calm.
- A quiet, dimly lit room can help reduce stress for both of you. Kiss, cuddle, and make it a soothing time rather than a feeding battle.
- Try nursing when your baby is relaxed—like right after waking or just before falling asleep. Avoid trying to feed when your baby is crying or upset. Never force the breast; it can make the refusal worse.
- Some babies feed better while being walked or held in a sling. Movement and closeness can help calm their nervous system.
- Short, frequent nursing sessions throughout the day can also help ease them back to the breast.
- If your baby seems frustrated by a slow let-down, try pumping for a few minutes before latching. On the flip side, if your baby is gulping or choking, the flow might be too fast—changing positions can help with that.
- During a nursing strike, your baby still needs enough milk. If breastfeeding isn’t happening, you can offer expressed milk using a cup, syringe, or even finger feeding. Try to avoid bottles or pacifiers before six weeks, as artificial nipples can confuse your baby and make things harder.
Conclusion
Breast refusal can be stressful and emotional, but it’s usually a short-term challenge with solutions that work. Whether your baby is refusing one breast or both, there are ways to gently guide them back with patience, closeness, and support. Always trust your instincts, and reach out for help if you need it. A lactation consultant can offer personalized guidance and reassurance. You and your baby are a team—and with time, most babies return to the breast.
References and Resources
- La Leche League – International breastfeeding support
